A Fair Weather Friend ... one who supports others only when it is easy and convenient to do so.
Oh, who hasn't had at least one of those ?
You trust them, you confide in them, turn to them for advice or comfort and you do your best to be there for them.
You find yourself worrying about a friend who has an odd ailment, a rotten marriage, a rotten son or daughter .
You catch yourself worrying about them ! instead of any problem you might have of your own.
And then one day they just disappear. No word, no warning, just gone.
On one hand it is a mystery, on the other it is sort of a relief.
How many sad stories of drunken sons and failed marriages do you need to hear ... from people who could learn a lesson or two in grief and loss .. but then one of them would say, that advice would be coming from someone who cloaks himself with grief , really ? "cloaks themselves with grief "? Is this a Harlequin Romance ?
If this has happened to you, don't feel bad. Don't miss that person. Don't take the blame.
When you have a Real Friend, you are equals .. you cannot lose a Real Friend that easily.
I had people gather around when my husband died.
Gathered around online. I was in the middle of nowhere having just moved back to the US from Argentina. I knew no one. My online friends were all I had.
And as time has gone by, so have they. One by one, they fizzled away .. it is difficult to keep an online friendship .. you need to see each other and hear each other.
Those lovely friendships in letters that used to happen, the famous ones we read about .. those people were worthy of friendship, regardless of the form it came in.
Shallow people are attracted to those who seem to be fun or interesting .. they want something from those people, something they know is lacking in themselves ..
This message is brought to you by an elderly lady who talked to me the other day while we sat on a bench by a pond ..
You never know when a little angel will pop up and have a chat ... with you ..