It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new.
But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful.
There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.
Alan Cohen
"Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend.
Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read."
Groucho Marx
The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.

Thursday, November 6, 2014

The Best I Could Have Hoped For ..

Today would have been our  44th anniversary. Yes, I was a child bride.
I had just arrived in New York City. A friend introduced us.
He invited me to tea at Serendipity. And that was that.
I flew to North Carolina shortly after to celebrate my mothers birthday with her and with my "baby" brother .. who is now older than I am .. odd how that happens.
When I flew home to NY, there he was, waiting at the airport .. we went home together to his apartment and we were never separated again. Until now.

He was romantic, he did crazy things, I , younger by a few years, was the one who would say Wait, what if ??? And he would laugh and say, What if we don't ? Why Not ? Everything will be fine.
And it was ..  every day was fun, exciting and full of love.

No matter what was going on in our lives, Love was the one thing we were sure of.
I followed him everywhere , he led.

We had children , he adored them both. He worried about them, he was their Father ..
The best I could have ever hoped for.

He was an adventurer , he lived in all sorts of interesting and exotic places ... Paris, Rome, London, India ... New Jersey .. and Buenos Aires for the last 7 years.
But he was always a New Yorker and my husband , the man I adored.

I was very young when we met and now I feel quite old.
I look back on our life together and so much was done ! so many people we met .. so many places we visited ... so many places we lived ... and I loved every minute of it, even the times I hated, I look back on fondly.

The last seven years in Buenos Aires were like one long honeymoon.
The three of us, we brought Tate, our Standard Poodle with us and the three of us were ridiculously happy living in Argentina.
The last year there, Tate died . He was old and he had cancer .. but he died at home with us by his side, on his own terms. I miss him still.
I like to think like my grandmother used to think, that he and my husband are together, somewhere "up there" , waiting .. it sort of makes the bad days better when you imagine you will be with them again. Be happy together again.

So the weather is appropriate I guess, we are having a dreary grey cold rainy day.
Minette has her work cut out for her, she is all there is to cheer me up today .. so far she bit my nose and helped me make the bed.

I might have to go shopping. Go somewhere ..

Yesterday I had a lovely visit with my friend and realtor.
So changes are being set into motion ..
Minette and I .. preparing for the next adventure.


  1. A beautiful memory portrait and tribute; weren't you both so lucky?
    I'm lucky that way too, and your experiences have added to my own sense of gratitude. Being lucky in love is just the best thing in life.

    I'm raising my virtual glass to you, to all the changes that are coming and all the good things ahead for you. I almost never post on the internet, as it just seems too odd and I'm shy, but I really wanted to let you know I think of you often.

    erina :-)

    1. erina, thank you so much and I am touched that you think of me. Yes, we are lucky, very lucky.

  2. These memories of love and joy are so precious!
    I wish for you a future of adventure and the courage to reach out for it.

  3. You are a beautiful writer. You make one feel deeply and that is a gift. Clearly too, you know how to live (consider that in italics) and celebrate a life well lived. I do think, I desperately want to believe, that we will all meet up there one day.

    Perhaps being "lucky in love" is the greatest blessing of all on this earth. It makes everything easier, and, ultimately, everything harder.

    How strange it is to feel as if I know you and yet I don't even know your name.

    Thank you for sharing with us.xo

    1. Tish, no one could pay me a higher compliment, thank you so very much. I would wish everyone had that sort of good luck ..
      Thank you, Candice

  4. I for one am looking forward to hearing about your future adventures, as much as I enjoy hearing about those in the past.

    I wish you much joy going forward!

    1. Vivian, I am looking forward to some future adventures too ! I have to get started on that ... thank you, so much.


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