It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new.
But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful.
There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.
Alan Cohen
"Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend.
Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read."
Groucho Marx
The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.

Friday, February 21, 2014

Thoughts on Getting Out of Bed

Some mornings you wake up and it might be sunny and appealing to get out from under the covers. Then there are mornings when staying in bed all day might be the best idea you will have .

Then there are mornings that you lie there and think and those can be the worst of all mornings.

You might think of the past, how you should have done this or that or said this or that or wish you had it to do all over again .. making it last.

You might think of the future, something you always figured you could count on knowing something about , plans made, ideas waiting to happen, but then things happen and you realize that every day can be a surprise or a void in your life and you really have no idea what to expect.
Mostly you just make plans and hope they work out.

Then there are days that seem to be exact duplicates of the day before and you wonder, is this the future, one day after another .. the same .. but not ?

You try to make vague plans for things to do and people to see and places to go .. giving a thought to the future and hoping nothing else happens to change things ..

But then, sometimes Things are changed and there is no semblance of what was planned and what might be counted on ... those are the challenges.
Everyone has some sort of challenge in life and some are mostly impossible to deal with and some are often times easy to cope with .. but then there are the sort that you live with and cannot change.

Those are the hard ones.

All I can say from this point of view is that it is important to get out of bed in the morning.
That is a big step forward for some people.

Take a shower and get dressed and pretend the world is the same world it was just a few months ago.

Try not to sit and think.
Thinking can be bad for you.

And when all else fails, Get a Kitten.

Life will never be the way it was or exactly the way you want it to be but at least a kitten can keep you amused. And sometimes in the middle of a long dark lonely night, the sound of a tiny kitten purring can be a comfort.


angiemanzi said...

Beautifully put. I look forward to reading you every day and hope you are doing ok. Ok is good, it leads to well and great.

Mary said...

Well written dear and straight from the heart I can tell. I'm happy you gave a loving home to Minette, she will not take the place of your dearest love of course, BUT she needs you and it is good that at this point in time she will give back her version of love……… purrs and snuggles, in bed and out.

Hang in there - just so it helps a little bit, Spring is peeking out all around my garden and will be appearing in yours before you know it. Right now we're under a severe weather watch - a huge but fast moving storm overhead as I write - pouring rain, thunder and high winds - rather scary.

Love and hugs - Mary

NotesFromAbroad said...

angiemanzi, thank you so much .. for reading every day and all your good wishes. besitos,

NotesFromAbroad said...

Oh Mary, thank you. I am trying :) some days are much harder than others , I look forward to less hard days. love to you too.

Martha K said...

I have been reading your blog for a while, my heart goes out to you. I am very glad you have gotten Minette. In my hardest times my animals have been the best consolation. They can keep you going when you can't do it for yourself. Things will get better. Not the same as they were, but good in a new way. Meanwhile, look for Spring and cuddle that kitten!

Martha K said...

I have been reading your blog for some time and am overjoyed that you adopted Minette. I have had some hard times and found that my cats were the greatest comforters. As Mary says, they need you and they need cuddles...the perfect combination. Things will get better for you, not the same, but good in a new way. Spring will come.

NotesFromAbroad said...

Thank you Martha ! I am glad I have her too .. even when she does insane annoying things .. I think maybe she is trying to distract me ? clever little thing :)
Thank you for the hope that things will eventually not be so sad and painful .. and yes, I will cuddle Minette, We both need it .

Anonymous said...

I am sorry for what you are going through. I understand. My husband of 37 yrs. died on Jan. 5th. after a 6 month fight w/ cancer. I watched him die in my arms. I am surviving & you will also.

Mary said...

Beautiful and true post Candice. Thinking of you from faraway and sending caring, hopeful thoughts. Your kitty is adorable and sweet, and i'm sure a loving comfort to you.

NotesFromAbroad said...

Thank you and my condolences to you . How sad, how very sad it all is. Sending warm wishes and a hug or two. I know that is one thing I miss so much, having his arms around me.

NotesFromAbroad said...

Thank you Mary so much. Oh, that kitten, she can be maddening and you know what ? she is just what I need.. she is a sweet little love. We are good for each other .

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