December 19th ... Today would have been my husband's birthday.
I would have done something crazy and fun and surprise him.
When he was growing up, birthdays were mostly ignored, maybe they got cards and an occasional gift but no one made a fuss.
In my life, since I can remember and even before that .. birthdays were celebrated.
You were Born !! Let's celebrate !!
In those family albums, there are many .... many photos of me with other children, wearing silly hats, riding a donkey ? laughing with my gorgeous Aunt Claudia ... playing party games with my cousin Arthur .. seeing my adorable baby brother at a table with me and my friends .. All Good.
What is better than celebrating your birth .. your arrival into the world ?
My husband first birthday party was thrown by me .. about 2 months after we met .. I asked his one friend that I had met and he helped me with who to invite and managing the surprise.
I gave him my apt key and I told my husband I would buy him a birthday drink.
While we were gone, the friends came in , decorated and waited.
When we walked back, my husband opened the door ... good thing he had a strong heart.
All his friends were gathered in that little apartment, laughing, drinking, kissing and congratulating me on managing a real surprise.
I could not have done it without them.
Now - - - they are all gone.
Old age and this and that .. took them all .. and I am left here to remember and smile and be so glad that I had that time with them .. those years with him .. that happiness.
If my husband was here today .. my son would come up and spend the weekend.
We would treat my husband like a king, waiting on him, making the food that he liked best, my daughter in law the phenomenal baker would surprise him with a beautiful perfect cake and there would be much laughter .
So today I will remember all the happy birthdays .. the surprises and laughs and be thankful for the memories .
Happy Birthday Harold. I love you.